Feel Like You’re Never Good Enough? 4 Mindset Shifts That Will Turn Things Around

Thinking you are never good enough will make you feel like you are not good enough. If you want to change how you feel, you must change how you think.

Does life feel like a competition that you are never going to win? If so, you are not alone. You are also not reaching your potential. Feeling like you are never good enough will have you playing small and often sitting on the sidelines of your life. 

To stop feeling like you are never good enough, make these 4 mindset shifts and put yourself on the playing field and in the game.

Mindset Shift #1

I am more than my experiences.

Have you allowed one emotional experience to shape your mindset for life? Perhaps you assume you are never good enough if you have been ghosted in a relationship, not accepted into a particular school, cut from a team, scored low on a test or not hired for a job. One significant “rejection” can brand your brain forever and hold you back from pursuing someone or something that you desire. 

If this is you, then your mindset shift is to believe, “I am more than my experiences.”

Mindset Shift #2 

I am my own best friend.

What do you think makes someone good enough? Do your answers come from culture, religion, education, parents, peers? All of these are good places for information, but what about yourself?  Information becomes knowledge, and knowledge becomes power, but power without wisdom can be destructive. Wisdom can only come from your discernment of all that you “know.” What would you tell your best friend about them being good enough?

How would your life be different if you treated yourself the way you treat your best friend? Best friends lift each other up when when they are down. Best friends champion each other towards their goals. Best friends are proud of, excited for and admire one another. Best friends trust each other.  Rather than looking to external sources to define you, what if you trusted yourself, your wisdom, and were your own best friend in every situation?

If this is you, then your mindset shift is to believe (and own), “I am my own best friend.”

Mindset Shift #3

I am stronger than my strongest excuse.

Who owns the voice in your head that tells you to play small or sit on the sidelines of your life? Whether it was someone influential in your life whom you trusted and believed, or it was your own voice limiting you, it can become the excuse to never try. 

And, that allows you to never “fail”, right? 

And that allows you to never “win”, right? 

Limiting beliefs about yourself despite their origin are like leeches. They will suck the blood out of everything you dream about. The thing about beliefs is that we get to choose what we believe. 

If this is you, then your mindset shift is to believe, “I am stronger than my strongest excuse.”

Mindset Shift #4 

I am the author of my playbook.

You may find you want to please others by saying and doing what they seem to expect of you. In so doing, they are scripting your life! Sometimes you may aim to please others fearing you will be rejected or will feel guilty if you don’t meet their expectations. This is a lot of self-imposed pressure to think this way. You likely feel like you are never good enough in your efforts no matter what you do.  It’s an exhausting and unrewarding way to live. 

When you recognize that you are more than the sum of your experiences, become your own best friend and claim power over excuses, then you will begin to take responsibility for your life and write your own playbook.

If this is you, then your mindset shift is to believe, “I am the author of my playbook.”

Growing self-confidence and increasing self-worth begins by shifting your mindset. Just know, it isn’t uncommon to struggle to make these shifts on your own. Professional coaching or therapy can help you untangle from your past and guide you forward. 

Just remember, thoughts of being never good enough are just thoughts. Who you are is bigger, better and stronger than a mere thought. You are always worthy, and more than enough. All you have to do is believe it!

And if you struggle with believing it, I am here to help you. You can pick up my book, The Gift of Shift, or contact me for a complimentary call to see if a little coaching would help.